It's terrible if you've ever undergone a break up, especially one where he doesn't give you a proper statement why. Sometimes he has a reason but doesn't want to explain it with you because he doesn't want to cause pain, other times he does know why, but doesn't know how to tell you so he doesn't help you to understand. To try and help answer your questions, here are the most common of the reasons why guys can act distant and not give you a reason for the break up.His values in a relationship changed
People want different things from relationships. They can go from; being friends, intimate relationships, cooperating, to being easy in terms of effort, etc. Occasionally learning about what you want from life can only be done through finding who you are and what you look for in a relationship. He may have expected he comprehended what he wished for in a girlfriend, but these can change over time.
People want different things from relationships. They can go from; being friends, intimate relationships, cooperating, to being easy in terms of effort, etc. Occasionally learning about what you want from life can only be done through finding who you are and what you look for in a relationship. He may have expected he comprehended what he wished for in a girlfriend, but these can change over time.
Everything about your lives is different
Deep down inside he knew that your lives didn't match. This could indicate your career goals, destinations you wanted to live, or amount of time you got to spend with one another weren't agreeable. In his thoughts the relationship wasn't compatible with his other areas in life.
Deep down inside he knew that your lives didn't match. This could indicate your career goals, destinations you wanted to live, or amount of time you got to spend with one another weren't agreeable. In his thoughts the relationship wasn't compatible with his other areas in life.
Family and religion come first
Usually his impression of you can be influenced by what friends and family pressure him into. Where he once thought the world of you, these thoughts can change from the thoughts of what others pressure him into. This can be particularly true if his family is strict and you don't share the same devotion.
Usually his impression of you can be influenced by what friends and family pressure him into. Where he once thought the world of you, these thoughts can change from the thoughts of what others pressure him into. This can be particularly true if his family is strict and you don't share the same devotion.
Knew he was moving away
He may not have known for certain, but talk from his coworkers of a better opportunity may have come up and the hope of an advanced position elsewhere is something that has been sitting in the back of his mind. Many people will pick careers over partners.
He may not have known for certain, but talk from his coworkers of a better opportunity may have come up and the hope of an advanced position elsewhere is something that has been sitting in the back of his mind. Many people will pick careers over partners.
Decided to discover who he is
Has he been quiet for extended periods of time? Blocked everyone out and can't think of anything to say? Sometimes it really isn't your fault, but him. Having a purpose in life and finding yourself is essential, and some men and women can be dragged down into a depression without it. During this depression, other things like employment and loved ones don't seem important. Pay attention to see if he acts like this about work and other departments of life; this can be a tell-tale indication that he is feeling this.
Has he been quiet for extended periods of time? Blocked everyone out and can't think of anything to say? Sometimes it really isn't your fault, but him. Having a purpose in life and finding yourself is essential, and some men and women can be dragged down into a depression without it. During this depression, other things like employment and loved ones don't seem important. Pay attention to see if he acts like this about work and other departments of life; this can be a tell-tale indication that he is feeling this.
Wanted to change the direction of his life
We all have desires of where we want to be in life. At times the final push is in another part of life, such as a disappointment at his office. This can be the certain act that makes us see that life isn't where you want it to be. As a side-effect, individuals can change completely and try to turn around all of their life, tragically including the departments of relationships.
We all have desires of where we want to be in life. At times the final push is in another part of life, such as a disappointment at his office. This can be the certain act that makes us see that life isn't where you want it to be. As a side-effect, individuals can change completely and try to turn around all of their life, tragically including the departments of relationships.
His feelings changed
Some guys just live off the passion they get from a relationship; they have no strength or responsibility to a relationship. When their passion runs dry, they can't be bothered to stick it through because they fail to have the energy to make a relationship work. He may not say anything to you because he knows you're a loving partner and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. See if he has behaved to his ex-girlfriends this way before.
Some guys just live off the passion they get from a relationship; they have no strength or responsibility to a relationship. When their passion runs dry, they can't be bothered to stick it through because they fail to have the energy to make a relationship work. He may not say anything to you because he knows you're a loving partner and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. See if he has behaved to his ex-girlfriends this way before.
Needs time alone
Men truly do need breathing space. This is an idea that is tough for women to comprehend because they are so the opposite. Men and women understand intimacy in various ways. Men need to maintain who they are while in a relationship, indicating that they need time separate for themselves occasionally. Allowing them that time allows them to breathe and permits them to be more intimate when you do spend time with each other.
Men truly do need breathing space. This is an idea that is tough for women to comprehend because they are so the opposite. Men and women understand intimacy in various ways. Men need to maintain who they are while in a relationship, indicating that they need time separate for themselves occasionally. Allowing them that time allows them to breathe and permits them to be more intimate when you do spend time with each other.
He is actually hurt
Men occasionally can be very juvenile when it comes to how they understand and process their feelings. If you have hurt him in some way, he can be perplexed about his feelings and not know what to say because he doesn't actually understand what he is feeling or how to show it. Or he can handle it in a juvenile manner and not express himself because he doesn't want to appear soft or vulnerable. As a result of either, he never communicates properly.
Men occasionally can be very juvenile when it comes to how they understand and process their feelings. If you have hurt him in some way, he can be perplexed about his feelings and not know what to say because he doesn't actually understand what he is feeling or how to show it. Or he can handle it in a juvenile manner and not express himself because he doesn't want to appear soft or vulnerable. As a result of either, he never communicates properly.
Additional, external strain
When it comes to handling stress, men can from time to time shut down. If there is too much tension from careers, family, or additional possibilities going on in his life, he can take it out on his relationships. In an effort to focus on the part with the problem, he will shut down in his every day to day life so that he can concentrate on the issue. Small problems in relationships can be taken by him as big ones. He may not be able to give you a story for the end of the relationship as he really has no explanation in general; he just desired to deal with the other areas in his life.
When it comes to handling stress, men can from time to time shut down. If there is too much tension from careers, family, or additional possibilities going on in his life, he can take it out on his relationships. In an effort to focus on the part with the problem, he will shut down in his every day to day life so that he can concentrate on the issue. Small problems in relationships can be taken by him as big ones. He may not be able to give you a story for the end of the relationship as he really has no explanation in general; he just desired to deal with the other areas in his life.
Fell in love with another woman
The most horrible and obvious is that he is in love with someone else. It may not be full blown cheating; there is a chance he has fostered feelings for a co-worker or someone close.
The most horrible and obvious is that he is in love with someone else. It may not be full blown cheating; there is a chance he has fostered feelings for a co-worker or someone close.
When he gives no reason for the end of your relationship, it's very conceivable that he had a gut feeling to do so, but couldn't put his feelings into words. If he couldn't give you a reason, it often does have to do with him and not you. Do yourself a favor and stop kicking yourself, sometimes the saying is true, that it isn't you it's him.
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