5 Warning Signs of a Breakup - How to Stop Your Boyfriend From Breaking Up With You

Some women in a solid relationship take it for granted and can't see the warning signs of a breakup. Finding the "one for you" only happens once in a lifetime, but after a while you get anxious wanting marriage when he isn't ready.

Hinting around by showing him bridal magazines or engagement rings will only push him away. Feeling threatened and trapped by your demands and ultimatums will eventually cause him to break up with you.

Guys don't like to be told how to think, what to say or what to do. If they feel cornered, they will pull out. Some women have actually made their boyfriend think they had somebody else, wouldn't take their calls or answer the door.

Their plan backfired, because they lost their guy forever. The worse thing you can do is pull tricks on him. He won't tolerate it and will look elsewhere for someone who is more trusting.

When he shows warning signs of a breakup, there are ways you can stop him from breaking up with you.

5 Warning Signs of a Breakup

1- Usually he stops taking you to restaurants, spending less time with you. It's best not to say anything and let him have some space. When he realizes you're not asking questions or putting pressure on him, he'll see you for your true self. The girl he fell in love with.

2- He stops telling you how he feels. Everyday he told you he loved you and he still does. He's just frustrated with the relationship, so give him time and be patient and he will soon open up.

3- Don't call or text him when he's at work. When he realizes you're not calling him, he will make the first move. Let him call first. Don't ignore his calls. Always reply to his texts and calls.

4- He doesn't spend as much money on you as he once did. The new relationship was exciting and he was careless spending his money. Offer to pay for dinner the next time you go out. He will know that you're putting his feelings first and you care about his finances.

5- He is spending more time with his friends and you feel left out. Lots of guys like to get together and watch or talk about sports which is a subject most women know little about or don't care. He also needs a life outside of your relationship. Try to understand his feelings and he will love you that much more.

Making these small changes in how you feel and your attitude will go along way. Your relationship will get stronger than ever. These tips will stop your boyfriend from breaking up with you.

Heed these 5 warning signs of a breakup which is usually two-sided, but the woman has to make sacrifices if she wants to keep her guy. If he is truly the one for you, then you will put his feelings first and not give him a reason to move on to someone else.

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How to Fight For Her

Whether you are in a newer or established relationship, at some point you may hear your significant other tell you they just want you to fight for them. What exactly does that mean you say? How can I fight for her when she is yelling, screaming and throwing things at me? Why would I run after her and stop her from leaving when she is acting completely insane?

While these may be valid questions, if your partner is fed up and has decided to leave you does it really matter if it makes sense? If she tells you she wants a divorce, do not just agree and sign the papers! Plead with her not to leave you, tell her how much you love her and she will be more inclined to give it another try.

You must step outside of your "logical thinking box" and put your pride aside. A woman needs to know that her husband, boyfriend, or partner loves her unconditionally no matter what. If she is headed for the door, it may be your last chance to express your true feelings and show her she means the world to you. Your actions and words have to be completely in sync for her to feel the things you express to her. You may say "I love you" to her quite a bit, but does it really matter if she does not feel it? Do you actually mean the words that you are saying or is it simply a routine?

When is the last time you held her hand? Kissed her on the forehead? Held her in the bed at night? These are all simple, but effective ways to show her you care. Fighting for her simply means never giving up and constantly reassuring her she is the love of your life.

Do not be afraid to love on her in public, give her compliments, make her laugh. Treat her like you did when you were first dating. Do not let your guy friends keep you from doing the things you know will make her feel special because you are afraid they will make fun of you. Your friends secretly envy the relationship you have so their opinions should not matter.

Trust me, if you pour your heart out to her she will love you forever! Tell her exactly why you fell in love with her. Tell her why she is special to you and why no other woman can compare.

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How to Avoid Marriage Mistakes Married Women Make

When planning your wedding, picking out rings and trying on dresses, you don't see the future ahead of you. Your envision of marriage is a simple life but after the honeymoon it's not quite so easy.

The first year of marriage is the hardest while both you and your hubby are getting adjusted to your new life. While getting ready to walk down the aisle, you're not thinking what it's like after the honeymoon is over. You need to plan for the future and avoid making marriage mistakes married women make. Once you know how to do this, life will run smoother for you.

Keep Your Problems to Yourself

Never tell your friends about your problems. When unloading them on your best friend, she's going to be prejudice and tell you negative things turning you against him, putting a strain on your marriage.

You've been best friends for life and you trust her judgement and when she suggest what you should do, you'll listen to her doing what she advises. Telling her negative things will only make her hate the man you married. When involving a friend, they'll take your side not giving your man a chance. Either you'll cut ties with your husband or your best friend.

Don't Try to Change Him

If you expected him to change before you said your vows, it won't happen. Men are set in their own ways and don't like changes. He met the perfect woman hoping she wouldn't change, but she however, wants him to change.

It hurts him and he loses self-confidence. Making positive changes in yourself will show him you want to be the perfect wife. He sees the better you and will accept some changes in himself. Let him know you love him just the way he is.

Connecting With Him

We all connect with friends, family, social media and message boards. But when it comes to connecting with the most important person in your life, there's no connection. You must connect to keep your marriage alive.

Avoiding this one marriage mistake will save your relationship. Many relationships end because of no connection. You need to build a bond with activities, communication and understanding for marriage to stand the test of time.

Keeping Romance Alive

So many couples lose the spark after the honeymoon. Keeping the flame alive will keep the marriage interesting. Fix candlelight dinners now and then. Dress sexy once in a while and go to a romantic getaway.

Don't make the mistake of letting yourself go. It is such an important part of your marriage. A man likes to look at a well-kept woman. Don't give him the chance to look elsewhere.

These small mistakes can cost your marriage. Don't make them and you'll have a healthy happy marriage.

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You and I - The Never Ending Mystery of Relationships

We need relationships to thrive. We are social beings (not to be mistaken for 'party animals'!) and we seek, even strongly yearn for companionship, love and friendship. We grow within the edicts of our relationships and as a result, they end up defining who we really are. There definitely are laws that govern the nature of a relationship - any relationship. Some of them are universal - trust, love, respect, empathy, and healthy communication. Some are different for different people.

The one universal truth across countries and cultures is the need to understand and acknowledge your partner's way of life and beliefs, in turn helping validate their presence as the other half. The onus lies on both partners in the union. Ultimately, what creates respect and acceptance for each other is the acknowledgment of each other by each other. And both must put in equal effort here.

So what of commitment? Can you force it out of him or her?

Simply put, commitment originates from the heart, and once felt, it has the power to stay - till eternity (even though some may not agree). This of course doesn't mean you overlook a cheating partner or turn a blind eye to a relationship going rapidly downhill. It means staying closely connected with your heart, which only happens through honesty - whether the scenario is good, bad, or ugly.

Honesty safeguards trust between two people and it provides a platform for true concern, thereby establishing an atmosphere where both can be happy. Truly, honesty made soft with love IS the best policy.

Most importantly, there is a universal thread forming the warp and weft of the magic that is life and that is our need to give and take. The bartering of emotions can sometimes prove to be the core of our sustenance on this planet. It is the fountainhead from whence contentment flows. However, what about giving? Our need to shower and offer our love openly is equivalent to our need receive it back.While you are always there for your better half, do you ever give him or her the opportunity to be there for you?

In any relationship, it is vital to feel needed, to be able to show and to demonstrate how we feel. This need when appreciated by the other places the relationship on equal footing. If this equality is tarnished, it makes one feel unwanted. It is important for your partner to know that he or she is ' oh-so-crucial' for you.

Entrusting yourself in the hands of people you care about is the backbone of any relationship. If they feel the same way for you, as you do for them, they want you to be passionate about them too.

Trust is the highest homage you can pay a relationship - the ultimate declaration of your faith in him or her. Sure, it makes you vulnerable. But as they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained. If we remain too scared to trust we will never know the joys of love and surrender.

Relationships are a focal part to our lives. Not only do they help shape us into the human beings we will eventually become, but also, more importantly, they offer us the perks of a lasting companionship.

Besides, relationships are meant to be an easy experience not a hair tearing disaster! Getting them right is never easy&but they are worth that effort.

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How to Get Over Your First Love - 5 Steps For Moving On After a First Love Breakup

Trying to get over your first love is hard to accept because you think there's no other person in the world for you. It's tough trying to think of the future with so much pain in your heart.

You never forget this special someone who filled your life with happiness, but there are steps for moving on after a first love breakup.

It's usually one-sided and you don't want it to end but life goes on. You have wonderful memories which makes you sad because you remember so many good times you had.

Most broken-hearted people think it's the end of the world, that there's nobody else for them, but in time that all changes. It's hard to think irrational when you're feeling so much pain, but the heart mends in given time.

The past will be a faded memory when you meet someone new to light up your life.

5 Steps For Moving On After A First Love Breakup

1- Never Stay Home Alone

Never stay home alone reminiscing over his favorite movies and sad love songs. It makes the pain worse and burying your head in your pillow will not help you move on.

Some women will not leave the home they both shared because there are so many memories. They delve into a deep depression and do not have the will to live.

There is life after your first love, but you got to take steps so you can live a normal life again.

2- Get Involved

Get involved in activities and take up new hobbies. It helps keep your mind busy taking focus off of your pain. Being around people is great therapy and talking to someone is good moral support.

It's best to get help from a neutral party such as a church counselor or social worker. They can make you feel better and open your eyes to a new life.

3- Pets Are Therapy

If you love animals and don't have a pet, adopting a cat or dog is another form of therapy. These animals are unwanted, have been abused and are looking for a loving companion.

They give you unconditional love and they know you're feeling bad. They have a psychic ability and can help you through your pain. They need you and you are saving a life.

4- Single Events

Reputable dating services in your area hold singles events once a month. They are a fun way to meet new people. The members are screened and many have been through your ordeal.

They understand what you're going through, and are a great source of advice. The events are held at classy hotels with all the trimmings. Dancing, dining, drinks and entertainment.

This is not a time to get serious, just to get out of your rut and have fun.

5- Speed Dating Events

A speed dating event is your last step. They're also held by your local dating service at classy hotels. These are different from singles events because members are looking for a serious relationship as yourself.

Your heart is still healing, but the pain has eased and it's time to get over your first love. These events are fun with entertainment, dining and dancing.

You'll get hooked up with several mini-dates in one evening for about eight minutes each. You'll have a score card to grade each one.

Be sure to write your questions as time is limited. After the event has ended, the attendant gathers the scorecards, matches you to the one you like best and the one who liked you the best.

You are given their phone number the next morning. What's nice when you go on an actual date with this person, you already know a little about them and what they look like.

These are 5 of the best ways on how to get over your first love. You'll never forget him but he will be a memory in your past and you'll live a new life with a new love full of happiness and new memories.

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How Rebound Relationships Can Ruin Your Life

Breaking up with the one you love causes terrible heartbreak. Usually one does not want the relationship to end. Loneliness and desperation turns to rebound relationships.

It seems to be harder on women than men and some women have depended on their partner for financial security. Trying to forget the one who left you makes you vulnerable to most men.

Loving someone so much and trying to deal with their absence is an empty lonely feeling. You want the pain to go away so you get involved with someone you barely know not thinking of the consequences.

Most rebound relationships come from an online dating site, a blind date or someone you met in the bar. Meeting someone through an online dating site can turn into a nightmare.

It's as bad as a blind date because most members are looking for a good time and have a fake profile throwing you off. So when you meet this person, they're totally different from their profile.

The site doesn't screen them and some are rapists, ex-cons and drug users. They know how to turn on their charm sweeping you off your feet and stealing your heart.

Some of these guys are dangerous with uncontrollable tempers, insane jealousy while the other type is dating scam artists going after your money. By the time they show their true self, it's too late.

They've trapped you into a commitment or worse marriage. Rebound relationships can ruin your life if you get involved with losers from these places.

Some women have lived a life of misery with no way out. He threatens her if she leaves and knows everything she does and who she sees. He has isolated her from family and friends throwing her into a deep depression.

Many women suffer mental and physical abuse from a rebound relationship and have nowhere to turn. He usually finds out if she goes to the police and makes her life more unbearable.

Having him locked up doesn't work because he's out in a day coming after her with rage. Usually a restraining order doesn't work either because he ignores this warning and it makes him more angry destroying what piece of life she has left.

If you've gone through a breakup and the pain is too much to deal with, get professional help. Open up to family, friends and the church pastor.

It doesn't seem like the pain will end, but it will in time. Get involved with activities, take on a new hobby and go to singles events.

They're fun and the members are all great people. Most have been through the same thing and understand what you're going through. When you're ready to move on, go to a speed dating event.

The singles are ready for a serious relationship as you are and have been screened. Their profiles are real and they are upper class people who came from a good background.

Rebound relationships can ruin your life if you don't take the time to get over a broken-heart from the one you loved first. You will love again with someone special who will give you a good life. But do not get involved with anyone until you know everything about them.

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Relationship Advice - Why He Isn't Answering Your Calls!

In the beginning of the relationship you were always in touch with your guy. All you had to do was pick up the phone and he would always be there on the other end of the line. But lately, it seems as if he's become harder and harder to get a hold of. In fact, when you really think about it, he isn't calling you as much as he used to either. What's up with that?

There are several reasons why your guy isn't staying in touch with you. As painful as it might be to hear, you need to understand what they are...

1. He's decided he isn't really ready for a long-term relationship. Some guys start to get scared when they realize where a relationship is heading. He might have thought it was just more casual dating in the beginning, but now things have obviously taken a turn for a more serious tone and it scares him to death. He might not be ready for a long-term relationship for quite some time - if ever.

2. He's decided he isn't ready to settle down with you. Your guy might be the long-term relationship type - just not with you. He enjoyed dating you and spending time together, but one day he woke up and realized you would be there - day after day, year after year for the rest of his life. He might not be ready to commit his entire life to only you.

3. He isn't marriage material. Unless you're one of those women who plans to date the same person for the rest of your life, there is going to come a time when you are going to want to get married. Your guy understands this. The problem is he isn't convinced he is marriage material - not now or possibly ever. His realization puts a lot of pressure on him to one day make a decision he isn't really sure he is going to be able to make. So he's bailing out now to avoid the stress of being placed in that position.

4. He's immature. Instead of being an adult and making long-term plans about the future, he would rather continue his frat-boy ways of partying all night, laying out from work and thinking that his life is always going to be that of a 20-year-old. He has no sense of responsibility nor does he want to develop them. He's happy just the way things are.

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Hot Monogamy For An Even Hotter Marriage!

Monogamy is not loyalty. Monogamy is wanting the most amazing person of our entire lives.

Despite what naturalists and fundamental psychologists may say about man's need to spread his seed, it is not true. Man's eternal search for everlasting happiness does not comprise a demand to broadcast the fruit of his loins.

Yes we are sexual beings, but none of us are driven by sex. Gay or straight, transgender or bisexual, asexual or polyamorous, we all crave touch. We crave understanding. We crave honesty. We crave to be loved for who we really are.

Most say it is normal for us to have secret sexual desires for more than one lover; many would say one sexual partner must be maintained through strict and disciplined loyalty. But take a look at what really might matters - "You are the only one I want. You are the only one I need. You are the only one who intensifies my fantasies." What more would make fireworks blast through our souls at any given time, any given day?

Fantasies play a huge role in all our minds. We fantasize about everything from money to sex to cars to touch to love to intimacy. But keep in mind, the particles making up the world around us are the same particles making up the fantasies consuming us. So which is real?

Here is a new concept, turning a common misconception on its head - Reality isn't real. Reality... is far over-rated.

Fantasies are what is real. Reality really is the non-existence existing in our minds. Being so broke we can't buy beans; having a gas bill 3 months past due on the verge of cut-off; receiving a letter in the mail explaining our house is going into foreclosure... is this real?

In contrast, is our behavior, outlook, and lover the reality which consumes us? Imagine, "Baby, we've got this. We've got each other. That's all we need. I will take care of you. I will protect you. I will love you forever."

Fantasies precede only what exists in the reality we realistically create. Our fantasies become our reality. And I'm not expressing the cliché, "We reap what we mentally sow." I'm preaching true love. Movie love. The love we yearn for, hunger for, pine for, and beg for.

The families we create don't make up a family unit. Kids don't make a marriage. Kids don't make a family. The family starts with the spouses. Reality can be expressed in what exists in our minds and hopes and actions rather than the tangibility of bills, children, houses, or cars.

So how do we find this true love?

Taking two to tango becomes quite mysterious if looked at in the proper perspective. Two people are indeed required to make a relationship work, but do we really want a relationship to merely work?

Grass isn't greener on the other side. Grass isn't even greener where we water it. Grass is greener where men follow their commission by God, the Universe, or the Universal Mystery of Life to lead our ladies into everlasting love. Men don't need to water the grass where they lie. We need to be the mature beings brought to this earth to propose an endowment on our lovers with the gift of true love. Men are the leaders in the dance of life... women follow. Women want nothing more than to follow, despite how many women appear to want to lead the charge in changing this world. This is only because they have been failed by men. Hear it. Believe it. Own it.

Men, let us lead the way. Let us take our lovers' fantasies and make them a reality through our feelings, words, actions, and service. We really do prefer fantasy over "reality", and all fantasies start with our lovers. Take the fantasy and regard it as reality. Let us find our soulmates and turn our everyday monotony into a true monogamy requiring nothing less than explosive fireworks, not always going off, yet constantly ready to be lit.

Fantasies are misconstrued as non-realities. However, they make up most of our thoughts on a daily basis. Turning the notion on its head, fantasies are what is real. Grass isn't greener on the other side, grass isn't greener where we water it. Grass is greener when men lead our ladies to everlasting love. Men, be their guide. Let us crack our visions wide open to show our ladies a true leader, and true happiness.

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How To Avoid the Friend Zone - Don't Make These 4 Huge Mistakes!

How often have you spent weeks, or even months talking to that particular girl you like, then working up the courage to finally ask her out, only to hear those dreadful words:

"Oh, you're so sweet, but I don't really see you in that way. I only like you as a friend... "

When you hear that, it's as if she has reached deep inside of your chest and ripped out your heart!

Hurts, doesn't it?

Here are the biggest mistakes that men make and that you should avoid doing:

1 - They never tell the girls their true intentions!

This is the most common reason why guys eventually get friend zoned.

They like the girl; they want to go on a date with her, have fun, sleep with her, and eventually start a relationship. But they're so afraid of rejection that they always skirt around the issue, never clearly stating what they want and letting the girl know that they actually like her romantically!

You must understand that rejection is a part of life and that no matter what you do - not everyone's going to like you.

That's why it's always best to let the girl know that you're interested in her romantically, and that you'd like to go on a date with her.

If she says yes - great! If she says no - at least you know where you stand with her, and you can move on, saving yourself a lot of time!

2 - They treat her like a princess!

If you never disagree with the girl, never express your own opinion, always feign interest in the topics that she brings up, even if they don't interest you - the girl will notice this and won't respect you.

If you're constantly afraid of offending the girl or making her angry, always "walking on eggshells" so to speak - she'll see that you are a spineless guy and lose all attraction towards you.

That's exactly why "Bad Boys" get to have all the fun, while "Nice Guys" are left behind in the dust.

Bad Boys don't fear rejection, aren't afraid of offending people, of living life, of judgment from others. They don't give a rat's behind about what anyone thinks of them and they don't filter their thoughts when they speak - they tell it like it is.

That is incredibly attractive to the vast majority of women, and exactly the reason why most girls fall for these so-called "rebels".

3 - They constantly doubt themselves!

Self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities that a man can possess.

If you can't make decisions, question your every move, hesitate when talking to the girl, touching her, leading her, and other similar things - you're not going to get anywhere!

Women don't like guys who are wracked with insecurities and self-esteem issues. It's best that you learn how to get those things handled!

4 - They bore women half to death!

This is another huge mistake that most men make.

When talking to girls, they start asking all the boring, and uninspired questions like "Where are you from?", "What do you do?", "Where did you study?", and so on and so forth.

Every girl has heard these questions a hundred times! You're there to flirt, have a fun, interesting, and exciting conversation with her - and not to conduct an interview!

Refrain from asking the things that a thousand other guys have asked her - and learn some much-needed social skills that spice up a conversation. Skills like storytelling, joke telling, teasing, flirting, spiking emotions, etc.

Give her a reason to want to go on a date with you! Don't bore her to death and show that you're both going to have a fun time if she accepts your invitation!

If you follow this advice and always make your intentions clear, you'll never land in the friend zone!

At worst, you'll get rejected and know where you stand with her. Then you can quickly move on to another girl and stop wasting time!

Good luck!

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How to Text a Girl You Just Met - 3 Ways to Get Her Hot for You Via iPhone

Texting that cute girl you just met can seem like an intimidating process. The good news is, it isn't impossible to get that spark between you going again. But the tough part is: actually taking out your phone and texting her!

While it can be a challenge to seduce women via text, it doesn't have to be. In many ways it can actually be easier. You have words in your favor as well as the leisure of figuring out what you will say next.

Text messages can be a powerful way of garnering her interest and getting her to be attracted to you. Here are 3 steps on how to seduce her through text.

1) Start by getting her attention

Women often get inundated with men sending them texts and emails and phone calls trying to get into bed with her. Imagine her coming in from being out all night, taking her dress off, and getting into bed. What's the first thing she sees? Her cell phone, blowing up with all the messages from guys she has just met. This means you have competition.

So you have to do something to get her attention. Something to make yourself stand out from all the other men texting her.

Start by playing it safe. Depending on how close you got with her during your face to face interaction, before she gave her number to you, you should talk to her about something during that conversation.

Try not to overthink it too much; just leave it open with a simple "Hey, what are you up to, young miss?" and you can add a smiley emoticon if you like. Then you wait for her response. If she's busy she'll let you know or text you back when she has a chance. You can also try a message that shows you were really paying attention and listening to her.

Such as: "Hi Jane, how did your shopping trip go? Did you find something you liked?"

After she responds send her a flirty playful message back, something like, "Oh, nice dress. You can wear that when we go out for drinks." The point is to show you are paying attention, keeping the conversation flirtatious and fun.

2) Short and sweet

You should make sure to make your messages short and to the point. Don't send her huge sappy or needy messages. That will turn her off. Just simple, attention-getting, short and interesting texts.

Be sure to adjust to the style of her writing. If she gives you two or three word responses, you should be replying in kind - not sending her four screens of text in your reply.

3) Make her laugh

If you do nothing else, try to get a few laughs out of her. You would be shocked at how important a sense of humor is for women to be attracted to a guy. If she thinks you're funny, she will be a lot more attracted to her.

Some funny texts to send:

1) "Just came from the bookstore. You won't believe what I just saw. It made me think of you... "

2) "Today I'm about 5% more awesome than I was yesterday. What's your daily level of awesome?"

3) "I just flew by private UFO and saw your twin sister - or was it a clone? Do you know anything about this?"

Try to get creative and think of your own texts as well.

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How To Pick A Date Night Movie You'll Both Enjoy

So, once again, your and your significant other are getting set for another major chore --- choosing your date night movie. It is unfortunate that such an incredibly unwelcome feeling can come over a couple performing such a mundane task as

picking a movie to watch. After all, wasn't the idea of a date night a way for couples to make sure to spend time with each other in the midst of our "go-go" world? Choosing a movie to watch should be an adventure and not a nuisance.

The problem is that you have to choose a movie that appeals to both of you. Each of you has different tastes, and these tastes are a sense that you've honed over the course of a lifetime. Now, you all of a sudden have to, dare we say, compromise? Well, yes, actually. Compromise is the name of the game, and it's a lot easier than you would think.

First of all, find out if there is a movie genre that appeals to you both. It is always a good place to start because at the very least, each of you has the chance to let the other know exactly what you like. Yes, there will likely be disagreements, but unless you try to see things from the other person's perspective, you are more apt to criticize and make date night turn into "sleep-on-the-couch" night.

Next, try to see what is actually playing at your local theaters. You may find that although you've chosen a genre, the offerings aren't quite what you both find appealing. This is actually not such a bad thing. Since you hashed things out a bit regarding genres, you're at least ready to discuss if there are any other movies you'd be willing to try out. After all, sometimes the adventure of the unknown can be more exciting than the expected.

Finally, what will you're date night entail? Here, perhaps, is the most important part of your discussion. You can talk about the many concessions you have to make about the movie for the evening. You can even go so far as to venture out to an obscure theater to find the right movie. Still, we need to think about the purpose of date night. You both chose a special night to make time for each other. Make date night count by making the experience as impressive as possible. Why not venture out to a dine-in theater? Not only do they offer the latest releases, they also provide special screenings, and they provide a full "dinner and movie" for the ages. Gourmet food, craft beer, and top-notch service are all on the menu while you're watching the movie! It's quite a way to make date night special all over again.

Don't let a date night movie stand in the way of a good time with the one you love. Make date night special all over again.

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A Powerful Way to Build Attraction With A Girl You Have a Crush On

"Your availability to a woman will contribute to her feelings of attraction" - Carlos Xuma.

It's a natural tendency for us guys to be obsess over a girl we have a crush on.

We hang out with her every day and call her day and night trying hard to create attraction.

But what you probably don't know is that DESPERATELY pursuing a girl or being too available can ruin the attraction you're trying to create.

Yes, when you meet an attractive girl, it becomes hard to NOT think about her. But truth is, when you obsess over a girl or devote 100% of your time and attention to her, you display a very needy and desperate vibe. And if you didn't know by now, this is one of the quickest ways to lose her.

Sure, you'd want to create an attraction. But at the same time, you'd also want to convey to her you have other OPTIONS in life other than pursuing her.

And a great way to do this is to lead a busy and fun lifestyle. (There are two advantages to this, and you're going to discover them in this article.)

A busy and fun lifestyle equals attraction

A busy and fun lifestyle in the sense that, you want to NONVERBALLY communicate to a girl you BUSILY engage in fun and exciting activities other than cling to girls.

This way you stand out from other guys and convey to her you're an attractive guy.

Now, the question is... how would a girl notice you when you're NOT pursuing her? Or more accurately, how would a girl fall for you when you're not giving her the 'time and attention' she needs?

Simple...
... because girls want to have fun.

Girls are extremely and naturally attracted to guys who lead a fun and exciting lifestyle. And a girl will be more attracted to you if she thinks you are fun to be around.

Making yourself unavailable

When you're too available and cling to a girl, she gets the impression that she has got your interest already. And that's when she begins to manipulate you and play hard to get.

But if you're NOT readily available yet you've managed to build rapport with her with your attractive personality, she'll get the impression you're not the kind of guy who clings to girls.

Thus, you become a good catch and irresistible. And she WILL be the one pursuing you.

As dating expert John Alexander has written:

"By not always being available, you will raise your value."

"It's a fundamental part of human psychology that we tend to assign a higher value to things that aren't readily available."

Unlike the lower status guy who's always available and desperately at a girl's beck and call, in the hopes that the girl falls in love with him, you come across as different. Because you're displaying higher value by letting her know that you're not a guy who will cling to her and be at her beck and call.

So how do you separate yourself from other guys and build attraction quickly with the girl you like?

Keep reading.

How to build attraction with a girl

So instead of being readily available in desperate hopes that the girl you have a crush on falls head over heels for you, go out and engage in fun and exciting activities.

For instance:

• Hang out with your friends and enjoy your favourite activities
• Enjoy your hobbies - hiking, skydiving, tennis, sports
• Go cruising in the Caribbean
• Take cooking or dance lessons
• Do some volunteer work
• Etc.

DON'T sit around giving your crush the impression you have nothing better to do. Go out and start doing things.

... you even get interesting things to talk about with a girl

When your life is fun and interesting, not only do you draw girls to you, but you also get tons of things to talk about with a girl.

Understand: Girls are emotional creatures. And they crave emotional conversations. And that means, talking about yourselves and your daily experiences. In other respect, talking about the things you enjoy doing.

So, in addition to talking about your favourite TV shows and celebrities. You can also talk about the interesting and exciting things that happened to you over the week.

Talk about the cool things you saw or did - the skydiving you performed and how exciting and fun that was. You then ask her if she's had a similar experience, and get her to share hers too. Leading to an EXTENDED emotional conversation.

Not only will she also start talking about similar stuff she experienced, but she will start to imagine what it is like to be part of your life. This will draw her to you, and she will want to hang out with you more. Because, as I mentioned earlier, girls want to have fun. And will be more attracted to you if they think you are fun to be around.

When your life is fun and interesting, you get tons of things to talk about with a girl.

Conclusion

Girls are used to guys putting them on a pedestal. Including clinging and being at their beck and call.

So instead of desperately pursuing a girl you have a crush on, engage in some fun and exciting activities, such as enjoying your hobbies. Giving her the impression that you're not the kind of guy who cling to girls, because you have other options in life other than chasing skirts.

If she sees that she doesn't have your full attention, despite her attractiveness, she will find you very attractive. And when especially you've managed to build rapport with her with your attractive personality, you become a good catch and irresistible. And this will turn the tables, and she will be the one pursuing you.

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Can You Really Remain Facebook Friends With Your Ex?

Breaking up used to mean breaking things off. And that meant everything, in that you weren't likely to see your ex unless you somehow ran into her again.

But what about Facebook? Can you remain friends on Facebook with an ex girlfriend? Or the more important question: if your girlfriend hasn't unfriended you after breaking up, can you somehow use Facebook to get your ex back?

Social media has made breaking up a much more complicated situation than it used to be. In the past things were simple; you'd lose each other's phone number and life would go on.

Nowadays? You've got tons of social media connections that remain behind even after the relationship is apparently over. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, group text-messages... suddenly you've got to decide which of these ties to cut, and which to keep.

Seeing an ex girlfriend can be painful, especially if you're still in love with her. Wanting her back and even trying to win her heart again can be made infinitely more complex when Facebook is telling you were she went that day, who she met up with, what she did, and what she had for breakfast.

It might also sound simple to just unfriend your ex. But in matters of the heart? Nothing's ever that simple. You'll want to hang onto these connections because they represent a portion of your past relationship. One that you loved and looked forward to every day. One that brought you closer together, even though right now it's making your heart hurt.

What Happens With Facebook After You Break Up

Before we talk about social media, it's a good idea to learn what goes on during a break up. And not just with you, the person who got dumped, but what's going on in your ex girlfriend's mind as well.

First of all, your ex didn't dump you without a reason. Sometimes a girl will tell you what that reason truly was, but most times she'll make another, simpler excuse for ending the relationship. Often she'll do this to spare your feelings (i.e. if there's another guy she's interested in, she's not going to cite that as the reason she ended things), but even more often she's just choosing the path of least resistance. She's picking whatever reason (such as the vague "it's not you, it's me") she thinks will be easiest for you to swallow, simply because she wants to get out of the situation as quickly and cleanly as possible.

Want the REAL reason she broke up with you? Learn how to make her reveal that reason. Because knowing truly why things ended is one of the first steps in getting her back.

Second, realize that after the breakup your girl is watching you closely. And she's not doing this for your benefit, she's doing it for her own.

Anyone who ever broke up with someone thinks the exact same thing: I hope I'm making the right decision. They're looking for signs that the decision was correct; that ending things was the right move, and that the person they left behind was wrong for them.

So when your ex looks back over her shoulder? She expects to see you upset. She wants to see you crushed. This isn't because she's cruel, it's because seeing you this way gives her the impression that she's better off without you. After all, if you're that hung up on her, why would she still date you? Apparently your happiness depends on her, and that's a hell of a lot of responsibility she doesn't want.

Also? You're a GUY. No guy should be crying or whining or (worse) begging for a girl to take them back. No guy should be sitting by the phone, hopelessly devastated because his girlfriend broke up with him. These things are HUGE turnoffs. Especially to a girl who has already decided to let you go.

Traits and Behaviors That Will Make Your Ex girlfriend Want You Back

A guy should be strong: mentally, emotionally, and physically too. A guy should be confident. Independent. A guy - no, her guy - should always know what to do, in every situation, so that if anything arises he can take care of her.

Girls like to be taken care of. Yes, even the independent ones. So when you can't even take care of yourself? You lose a hell of a lot of appeal.

Whatever attracted your girlfriend to you in the first place must be the same traits that will get her back. Don't lose sight of how she sees you. Don't sit there wallowing in a giant pity party you threw for yourself. If that's what you're doing right now, you'd better man up quickly because you HAVE TO STOP.

Is Your Ex Facebooking You?

You can't tell when someone views your profile on Facebook. That said, your ex girlfriend is absolutely watching you after the break up. She's checking your page to see what you're up to, and she wants to know whether or not you're happy.

This is why you don't throw up all over your own feed. No crappy song lyrics. No depressing meme graphics. In fact, the best thing you can do on Facebook after your girl breaks up with you is pretty easy:

Absolutely nothing.

In trying to figure out how to win your girlfriend back, never underestimate the importance of doing absolutely nothing at all. Silence is always golden, and it's especially shiny in the wake of an unwanted breakup.

Emotionally your ex needs to see that she was right. Mentally she wants to know that she made the right choice. You being miserable = her being right. But when you disappear from Facebook (and all social media) entirely? You quickly shake any confidence she's trying to build up. Not being able to see what you're doing is the single most disquieting thing for your ex girlfriend.

It might even make her unfriend you, purely out of frustration.

What to Do if Your Ex Unfriends You on Facebook

If your ex clicks that button to de-friend you on social media, it's because of one of two reasons:

1) You're getting to her. She's making a statement by unfriending you, and she'll be looking for a reaction.

2) She's about to start dating someone else, and she doesn't want you to see her Facebook feed.

This assumes you've been broken up for some time. Unfriending you right after the breakup is possible too, but that usually won't happen unless you had a huge fight, you betrayed her, or something ugly like that.

If your ex does happen to unfriend you, the last thing you should do is mention it to her. Saying something - even dropping a snide or sarcastic remark - is only going to make you look jilted. You never want to look jilted. In fact, you never want to appear as if you care at all when it comes to something as silly as a social media page.

Making your ex want you back is all about appearances. Instilling original desire. You can't do that if you're complaining about not being "friends" on some website, or whining that you should still be able to connect via Facebook or Instagram. As as strong, independent, confident guy, none of these things should matter to you.

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