How to Use Body Language Signs To Tell A Girl Likes You (Or Not)
Learn the abracadabra of mixed body language signals that women so affectionately call 'subtle hints'. So you can easily see if she likes you.
It is crucial to realize that it is absolutely not the intention that you wait for one of the following signals.
These body language signals are useful to recognize if they notice you, but the lack of them should NEVER be a reason not to make a move. Anyway, this does not alter the fact that a lesson in non-verbal communication can come in handy.
The 'reading' of women is very useful to avoid rejections.
And guess what... it is possible.
A woman reveals a lot with her body language. She can manipulate and distort her words, but her body always tells the truth. When you learn how to interpret the non-verbal signals, you can see exactly what they think. If you can do this, the chance of a rejection is much smaller.
How to Tell If a Woman Likes You or Is In Love With You
Of course, mind reading is a superpower I guess anyone would like to possess. The problem with that you will then always know what everybody thinks and that may prove to be not so conducive for any relationship. Since we won't be able to filter out what we do not want to know, not having this power is actually a blessing in disguise.
What we want to know is:
How a woman feels
Does she like me
Whether she finds me attractive
And whether she speaks the truth.
Fortunately, these things are all easy to pick up on if you pay attention. Her body communicates the things you want to know. Once you know what the signals are you can look out for them.
Pay attention now...
HANDS:
Hands Which Fidget or Stroke Objects
When she caresses or plays with objects, she is nervous or excited. She smiles at the man and plays with her hair. It is a well-known fact that this is one of the signs used to signal a girl likes you.
Caressing, fiddling and fidgeting is actually the same: an expression of nervous energy. A girl can play with her hair, or fiddle with a chain or stroke a wine glass.
Drumming with her fingers on objects or fiddling is a typical case of good healthy tension. She is impressed with you and tries to come across well. That's why you see her drumming and fidgeting. She however unconsciously displays sexual excitement when she strokes objects rather than fidgeting, which actually is one of the better signs a girl likes you.
Open Wrists
Take note of her hands. Are her wrists visible? This often is a clear signal and a typically friendly gesture. She communicates that she is open to you and that she feels at ease. By leaving her wrists unprotected she indicates that she feels safe and is open to you. A good sign.
She Makes a Fist Or Hides Her Wrists
She is defensive and may be hostile towards you. The opposite is also possible. She turns her palms away from you. Look at her hands. Does she make a fist or is her hands flat on the table? Her body language for certain tells you she is defensive, stressed or hostile.
It is clear that you are doing something wrong and she is not happy with your presence at the moment. Not a good sign.
Touching
If she touches you without any reason, it means that she is more than normally interested in you.
Touching you on the shoulder is already a clear flirtation signal, but if she touches your leg (for example if she is sitting next to you) or puts her hand on your chest... then you know you're doing a good job.
FEET: What She Says With Her Feet
Crossed Legs
Basically says she does not plan to run away. I can imagine that you can easily explain this as a closed signal as crossed arms indicate she is "closed" to your attentions. That said, crossed legs (in contrast to crossed arms) is actually a positive signal.
If women find you interesting, they often cross their legs as soon as twenty seconds after they meet a guy they like. She makes herself more feminine by bringing her hips out which makes her less balanced and more vulnerable.
Feet Pointing At You
When her feet point directly at you, it means she is interested and her whole being is focused on you. She has no plan to run away, and inevitably her entire body is directed your way.
You're doing well.
Feet Turned Sideways
She is not paying any attention to you. Turned-away feet is a clear signal of disinterest.
She is ready to walk away and her focus is clearly on something else. She may still be talking to you because it is socially expected, but she prefers to talk to someone else.
She is bored, or at least not interested. It is time that you do something different before she really runs away.
ATTITUDE: What Her Attitude Says
Folded Hands
Hands folded over her chest means she does not feel comfortable and that she is not open to a conversation. She probably even wants to let you know that she does not like you. Women put up a barrier with a drink, handbag or by folding her hands over each other.
Any person who do not feel comfortable with another person, instinctively want to protect their vital organs. Since this is a reasonably familiar gesture of being closed to another person, she will know this is an unkind gesture, but it really does not matter to her.
Over the Shoulder
She makes eye contact over her shoulder which means she is shy or wants to be approached. This is also wonderfully confusing as here too she throws up a barrier. She turns her body away, but keeps eye contact. When you are on a date with a woman who constantly turns her shoulder but makes eye contact, it means she is just shy.
Eye contact is often an aggressive and dominant signal. By turning her body away she makes eye contact without being dominant. That way she lures you to be the aggressor.
You can easily discern this signal. When she does this from a distance you often see that she looks at you long enough to attract your attention and then turns her head away.
She is interested but shy and afraid to be vulnerable.
When you do not know her and see her from a distance, it is often her way to attract your attention without becoming too obvious.
Arches Her Back
She wants to look more attractive by making her breasts stand out more. For a woman, this is a brilliant tactic. Think about it, her stomach becomes flatter, her breasts bigger and her neck gets longer.
When men and women flirt with body language, they actually do nothing but emphasize gender differences. The hollow back does exactly that. It presents her feminine parts.
She does this to emphasize her femininity. It is a good sign.
Bowed Head
It is a typical gesture of submission. If people keep their heads down, they look smaller and submissive.
She will use it, because the vast majority of men find women, who are somewhat submissive and nonthreatening, attractive.
If she is close to you, it can also mean she wants to be kissed.
Distance
The closer she is to you, the nicer she finds you. In a busy discotheque people are close to each other since they have no choice. In situations where a person can determine the distance from another person themselves, you can determine from the distance she is from you whether she likes you.
EYES: What She Says With Her Eyes
Pupils
If her pupils become larger, she is excited. Women do weird stuff to look more beautiful. Centuries ago already, women used eye drops to make their pupils bigger. It was a known fact then already that there is a clear link between pupil size and sexual excitement.
So when you see her staring at you with large pupils, you are doing a good job. It means that she is sexually excited, or sees something she wants to have. Pay attention to the light, by the way. At twilight, her pupils become larger and in bright light they get smaller.
Looks Away
When she breaks eye contact and looks away, she is bored. It does not matter how much eye contact she makes with you. If she makes eye contact for a long time, this may mean she likes you, but it can also be an attempt to intimidate you.
You can learn a lot about how she breaks eye contact with you. If she breaks eye contact and looks to the side every time, it is not a good sign. It does not mean she dislikes you. It means that what you have to say does not interest her and unconsciously she looks around for other interesting things.
When you notice that her eyes constantly scan the whole room and she is paying attention to everything else but you, she is bored.
Looks Up
If she breaks eye contact and looks up, she dislikes you and you have a real problem. This is the most negative signal that a woman can give you.
It can mean boredom, but it differs from looking away to the side in the sense that looking up basically tells you she has no respect for you.
It is a signal of contempt and disrespect. The only time it really does not mean anything is when a person is trying to answer a question and they may try to remember the answer by looking away, be it to the side or up.
So if she looks sideways or upwards while trying to answer a question, it does not matter. In all other cases it is a bad sign.
Looks Down
When she breaks eye contact by looking down, she is either impressed or in love.
You want to see this. If a woman breaks eye contact down, she wants you. Strangely, some women seem to constantly alternate between your crotch and your eyes with their eyes.
By breaking eye contact down she again shows submission. She will only do this to people she is impressed with or she respects... and of course you want that.
Eye Blinking
Should she blink more than needed with her eyes, she finds you attractive. On average people blinks with their eyes about 6 to 10 times per minute. When we find someone attractive, the number quickly increases
When I read this the first time, I thought: this is impossible to track, how do I count how many times she blinks?
In practice, it is fortunately quite simple. Blinking is one of the easier signs to tell a girl likes you and finds you attractive. If you pay close attention you will quickly notice when her eyes start to blink more. The difference between normal and "abnormal" is big enough.
MOUTH: What She Says With Her Mouth
Mouth Covered by Hand
When she covers her mouth when she speaks to you, she wants to mislead you. When people try to hide their emotions, they unconsciously want to cover their mouth. It happens unintentionally, but people often cover their mouths with their hands.
It is such a cool way to spot deceit. You will see both men and women do this. They somehow lie to you or try to fool you.
Wets her Lips
If she licks her lips, or bites them, she wants to kiss you. When a woman gets excited, she starts breathing faster and this causes her lips to become dry. That is why you will see her wetting her lips.
Preparing for the kiss is also a reason to wet her lips. When you suddenly see her putting on lip gloss, it means she is preparing for a saliva exchange.
Sometimes when she's really excited, she even bites her lip. Obviously, you cannot ignore such a clear signal.
Sounds Easy? Unfortunately body language reading is not an exact science.
Her pupils can grow larger because the light is dim. She can put her arms over each other because it is cold, she can put her foot aside because she suffers from her knee, she can blink a lot due to hay fever, and so on.
A single signal is therefore not reliable at all. That is why it is important that you pay attention to a cluster of signals.
Clusters Tell the Truth
Do you recognize multiple positive signals from a woman at once? Then you can safely assume that she wants you, and vice versa. A cluster of "negative" signals can indicate she is not into you all that much.
How You Can Learn to Read Her Body Language
We are born with the ability to read body language. As a small child we can distinguish angry faces from happy faces. We can see if someone is nervous, angry or sad.
Most men are simply just bad at recognizing when a woman likes them. Firstly because men just are worse than women when reading body language. Secondly, nine times out of ten, because men are too busy with themselves. They are too busy trying to make a good impression.
The second one is easy to overcome. If you are nervous or just concerned with how you come across to her, it is easy to forget to pay any attention to her.
If you can learn to focus on her then the first signs she gives will quickly and easily stand out. In order to get really good at reading the signs that tell a girl likes you, you will have to invest time however. Not something you can learn in a few days unfortunately, time and attention is needed.
Start by observing other couples on a date. See if you can pick up any of the signals the woman gives. Then try it yourself, step by step. Focus first on the hands, then on the posture and so on. Build your skills step by step.
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