Being Content With Loneliness

Is it humanly possible to be content with loneliness? The variants of loneliness are aloneness, solitude, isolation, lonesomeness, and seclusion. The opposites of loneliness are camaraderie, company, friendship, comradeship, enmity, and esprit de corps. Being alone goes against nature as is plainly evident from the structure and composition of the natural environments. So is it humanly possible to be content in an unnatural state of being?

Gratified, happy, satisfied, contented, pleased, comfortable, and relaxed are standard variants of being content. So, is it possible to be comfy, pleased, gratified, happy, satisfied, contented, and relaxed in loneliness, aloneness, solitude, isolation, lonesomeness, and seclusion? Perhaps that would greatly depend upon the temperament of the person. Companionship is not merely a need; it is hardwired into genetics. Being alone can cause stress, paranoia, and a whole host of other negative psychological problems.

Given the adverse psychological consequences of lonesomeness, what mental tools can a person bring forth that will allow them to be able to find contentment in solitude? A high degree of spirituality may be a substitute for interpersonal relationships, but even this is not being isolated and alone because a relationship with a non-physical companion is taking the place of a physical one. Employing a rational justification for self-imposed solitude to attain contentment in loneliness is a tool that will work if the rationalization has the proper degrees of validity to make this approach practical.

If a person reasons that people are better off if he or she does not personally interactive with them. One can find their seclusion to be the best possible benefit to other people and find contentment in loneliness for their sake. Of course, this is admitting that there is something ruinous in their personality that make isolation from them beneficial for the rest of society. No one wants to feel that way about him or herself and, therefore, will not find gratification in aloneness if a ruinous personality is the reason that he or she negate intimate contact with other people.

There are certain people who do well by others to stay out of their lives. These are not bad people just people who make a pile of rubbish out of whatever they touch. They do not produce junk intentionally but have the propensity to transform a green pasture into a scrub brush just by coming into contact with it. These are the type people most in need of discovering techniques to be content with loneliness. Being alone is a bitter pill for them to swallow but it is the social behavior that has the welfare of others as the most appropriate outcome.

Being the custodian of another person's serenity by voluntary quarantine is a noble basis for being content in loneliness. Not that the person wants to remain in this state, but until they have matured in their thinking and behavior, this is the best solution for all concerned. So being content with loneliness is feasible, but it cancels out all opportunities of being encouraging and uplifting to someone. Even if that is greeting them with a smile, or having someone boost their day by doing the same. Of course loneliness and being alone is not always within the same package as a person can be the center of interpersonal relationships and have much loneliness. That is a whole other topic of discussion.